USC speech

March 4, 2008

How passive or aggressive are you?

Filed under: Uncategorized — minimax @ 10:26 am

 

attitude : a feeling or opinion about something or someone, or a way of behaving that is caused by this  • compete : to try to be more successful than someone or something else  • criticize : to express disapproval of someone or something  • determination : the ability to continue trying to do something, although it is very difficult  • discourage : to make someone feel less confident, enthusiastic and positive about something, or less willing to do something  • energetic : having the power and ability to be physically and mentally active  • exhausting : making you feel extremely tired  • failure : when someone or something does not succeed  • horoscope : a description of what is going to happen to you, based on the position of the stars and planets at the time of your birth  • influence : the power to have an effect on people or things, or a person or thing that is able to do this  • justified : having a good reason for something  • lack : to not have or not have enough of something that is needed or wanted  • motivated : have a reason for doing something  • opposition : strong disagreement  • overtly : do or show publicly or in an obvious way; not secretly  • pitiable : making people feel sympathy  • praise : to express admiration or approval about the achievements or characteristics of a person or thing  • private : describes thoughts and opinions which are secret and which you do not discuss with other people  •  setback : something that happens which delays or prevents a process from advancing  • suffer : to experience physical or mental pain  • superstition : belief which is not based on human reason or scientific knowledge, but is connected with old ideas about magic, etc  • sympathy : understanding and care for someone else’s suffering  • tempted : to want something or to want to do something  • Zodiac sign : in astrology, any of the twelve symbols which represent parts of the year

HOW TO SCORE: Give yourself 1 point for each “yes” answer to the questions.

01 Do you pay much attention to your horoscope, a fortuneteller’s predictions, or other indications of what your future may hold?

What is your Zodiac sign? What is your character supposed to be like according to your sign? Is your character in fact similar to this? Have you ever visited a fortuneteller? If so, what were some of the predictions the fortuneteller made, and how accurate were they? What are some of the superstitions you have?

02 Do you believe that luck plays a very important role in deciding whether or not someone can be successful?

Do you believe that there is such a thing as luck? How lucky do you think you are? Have you ever experienced a time in your life when you had extremely good or extremely bad luck? Can you give an example of either a person who became successful mostly through luck, or a person who failed mostly because of bad luck? What other qualities do you think are most important for success? Do you have these qualities?

03 Do you often feel sorry for yourself?

What about yourself or your life do you consider pitiable? When you are suffering, do you want people to know that you are and to show their sympathy? Or do you prefer to keep your suffering private? Are there any people in your family or circle of friends that you consider pitiable? If so, why?

04 Do you think your life is being influenced in a bad way by other people?

Are there any people in your life that you consider to be a bad influence? If so, who are they and what are they doing that you think is negatively influencing your life? Who are the biggest positive influences in your life?

05 Do you dislike situations in which you must compete with other people to get something that you want?

Can you give an example of a time when you were in this situation? What happened? Do you consider yourself a competitive person? In what ways, or in what areas of your life—for example, work or sports—are you most competitive? Does it upset you very much when you lose? A famous tennis player (Jimmy Connors) once said, “I hate to lose more than I love to win.” Do you agree with him?

06 Do you give up easily?

Can you give some examples that show why you answered the way you did? Have you ever given up trying to do something that you later realized you could have done? Have you ever shown an unusual amount of determination to do something that people that you would give up on? If so, why were you unwilling to give up?

07 Would you say that you lack a strong sense of what you want from life?

If so, do you think this a bad thing? What things do you most want from life? Why? So far, do you think you have gotten most of what you have wanted from life? Why or why not?

08 Would you say that fear of failure keeps you from doing many things you would otherwise like to do?

Can you describe your attitude toward failure in more detail? Is there any particular failure that influenced you strongly?

09 Would you say that you have a more difficult time recovering from setbacks than most people do?

When was the last major setback you suffered? How did you respond to it? Have there been any setbacks from which you never fully recovered? Have you ever experienced setbacks in learning English? If so, what did you do to recover from these setbacks?

10 Do you usually need pressure to get motivated to get something done?

If there is no outside pressure, how do you motivate yourself to do something that you don’t particularly want to do?

How much pressure do you feel you are under now? Where does this pressure come from?

11 When you are criticized wrongly, do you generally accept it without much opposition?

What are most often criticized for? Do you think this criticism is justified? Which person criticizes you most often? Do you consider this person’s criticism helpful or just annoying? Are you easily discouraged by criticism? Do you think criticism or praise is more effective at motivating you to do better?

12 Before expressing your interest in or affection for another person—whether overtly or not—do you generally wait until you are sure he or she feels the same way toward you?

If your answer is yes, why do you generally wait? If your answer is no, why do you generally not wait? Have you ever pursued a romantic interest very aggressively? Have you ever been pursued romantically by someone you disliked?

RESULT

0 to 3 : You are a “go-getter” in the extreme, very aggressively pursuing what you want and refusing to be controlled by outside events or other people. Because of this aggressiveness, you may encounter much conflict in your life, or find yourself frustrated  by those things that you expend much effort pursuing but are unable to obtain.

4 to 7 :  You tend to be aggressive, though in certain areas, you may be quite passive. You have struck a good balance between working hard to get things you want and not wasting effort on things that are not worth it or that might give rise to undesirable conflict.

8 to 11 : You tend to be more passive, accepting much of what life gives you. Generally speaking, only in those areas that are extremely important to you are you motivated to act. Unless your character is stoic, you are unlikely to be very satisfied with your life.

12 to 15 : You are extremely passive, making little effort to get the things you really want, even the things that would be relatively easy to have. You generally act on your own initiative only when overcome by extreme passion. You are either extremely contented with life, having “submitted” to your fate, or extremely unsatisfied, because you rarely get what you want.

WARM-UP QUESTIONS : When you want something, are you willing to work very hard to get it? What is an example of something that you worked very hard to get? What is an example of something that you wanted that you gave up on?

 

 

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